My husband cheated on me, threw me and our two boys out of the house and I am pregnant with our third. Turned my stepdaughters who I loved so dearly against me and then moved in his girlfriend and her two kids, as well as sending one of my stepdaughters back to live with her mother who we fought in court for years to get her away from. I am to the point I am ready to file for divorce and get my home back, but if the topic ever gets mentioned around him he says I am just trying to make sure he suffers. I don't think I am, I help him as much as I can, he really does not pay me that much money to live on and he is always broke I help him when I can afford to, he has not bought one thing for the baby I do all of that and he hardly ever sees our sons, maybe two hours once a week. Am I being the mean person he says I am?
Update:@Starfish, I guess I should explain a little clearer, I went and hired the meanest divorce lawyer I could find to file with, I decided if I was going to pay the money I was going to make it worth it. He found out and that's when I became a person out for blood and to make him suffer.
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No your not being vindictive, you have every right to file for divorce and every right to keep your home and boot his sorry *** out. He's a low life hypocrite too, he is the one screwing around on you and the one who is trying to boot you out yet the minute you even threaten to evict him he cries like a little baby and claims your vindictive, hell no I say you anilaite his sorry ****.
I'm glad you added your additional details because before you did that I was about to agree w/ Starfish that you're just a big wimp to be pushed around by this jerk.
I'm ok w/ you hiring a shark to devour him.
The man threw his pregnant wife & his children with her & his children from his first marriage out of their home to move his mistress in. If this had happened to me, I'd be hiring a lawyer to keep myself & several family members out of prison because that man & his mistress would both be missing & no one would ever hear or see hear from them again.
so, tell me again why you should care that he thinks you're vindictive?
He threw you and your kids out of the house and moved his girlfriend and her kids into the house, you're pregnant with his third child that he refuses to support...and you're worried about whether or not YOU'RE vindictive?!! Good thing you got a nasty divorce lawyer, because you'd be in REAL trouble otherwise.
You're a complete doormat.
It's embarrassing, how puling and weak you sound.
I know that's mean, but honestly, such a spineless reaction to what he has done to you makes me angry.
Time to get angry yourself, and teach your children that no man can treat you that way.
Well, good for you! It's about time....and he is a ridiculous child to expect you to just eat shlt and do it with a grin on your face. God, what a piece of work. You're well shut of him!
I think, given the circumstances you describe, its okay and natural to give him a little hell.