im 29 years old, and have never had a boyfriend, or even been on a date.
I'd love to say is simply that ive had weight issues most of my life, but i see overweight people in relationships all the time. Plus, there have been times that i lose a lot of weight, and tried fixing myself up, and still i was never noticed.
Im starting to think im meant to be alone. Being alone used to bother me, and having family constantly tell me im wasting my youth, does make me feel bad.
But to be honest, i dont think i would even want anyone now, if a guy suddenly was interested. Ive gained/lost weight so many times, my body does not look good, stretch marks and loose skin.
I'm starting to think, that rather than obsessing about no one wanting me, that maybe i should work on accepting that i will be alone. How can i accept this, and be happy?
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Will you be my girlfriend?
No ! Don't accept that. For the past week i've been depressed because I was afraid of never finding the right girl but i'm feeling a lot better. Theres someone out there for everyone.
The best advice is to NOT accept it, because its not true. But, if you want to be happy, you need to learn how to be happy with yourself so that you won't care so much whether or not you find someone. Love yourself because no one could ever love you as much as you love yourself. :)
Sometimes the world doesn't treat you very well, but you have to keep fighting to be happy because happiness is your birthright, honestly.
I think maybe you worry too much about how people view your body, do you think that could be a problem ? You say nobody noticed your weight loss, but that's no reason to feel bad. Keep working to stay fit and you'll feel happy, whether you have a guy or not. Do things you like doing. Distraction is always nice :) Get lost in your hobbies. Don't have any ? Find some, like drawing.
You don't need a boyfriend to have a happy life. Besides, if no one appreciates you for who you are, then they aren't worth your time.
You sound like a great woman and i'm sure you're very pretty.
Don't lose hope in love, but also learn to make yourself stronger mentally and emotionally so you can be proud of who you are and men will admire you as well.
You are still pretty young. Don't worry about it. Do what you think is right for you, but I would suggest not giving up on love. It doesn't matter on what your body looks like or anything. If a real gentleman likes you, he will like you for you, and not for a couple stretch marks or anything else. You're 29. It's not too late. Don't give up. The right guy will pop up when the time is right. It's really never too late. Try online dating, talk to guys you know at work, etc. I personally think that you are trying to make yourself happy by trying to make your mind think that it is ok if you are alone. If you are happy with being alone then go for it, but I just think you are young, pretty, and you are just waiting for the right guy to appear. Give love a chance. Best of luck :D
Lol modern times. Plenty of people on their own.