Why is my ex girlfriend so vindictive? We met at work (yes, I know, before you say it, don't date people that you meet at work.) Anyway, we dated for about a year then broke up. And initially it was a very peaceful break up. But we still talked, then we started to date again and even began having sex. But she made it perfectly clear, that she didn't want to get back together. She, herself, told me that she didn't mind if I dated other people. So after awhile, I started to date another girl from work. Well, all hell broke loose.. My ex started saying things about me and my new girlfriend. Then I got mad and said things (which I shouldn't have.) Anyway, it's been like 7 months and she herself has a new boyfriend. But she is still very cold and completely ignores me. So I tried to make peace with her by writing her an e-mail (I didn't want to talk about it at work) and I apologized and asked if we can be polite, friendly, and cordial to each other. Well, now she goes to my boss and tells him that I'm harassing her and she's trying to get me in trouble. Whatever. I knew she had some issues but I never knew that she was just pure crazy. It's not like I ever cheated on her, had a drinking problem, was physically abusive, or left her financially screwed. As a matter of fact, I was always there for her when she needed my help or a shoulder to cry on. So her sheer hatred for me is completely unwarranted. I feel like a total fool having loved someone who can be so horrible. Guess that's what I deserve.
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Why are some ex girlfriends/boyfriends so vindictive?
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She is mad because you got over her before she got over you. She is irrational as most females are. Who broke up with who initially? If it was you, then she might have started things back up to either be with you again or wanted to be the one to hurt you second time around. It was to make herself feel better.
Clearly she's immature. Don't worry about her anymore, because this behavior continues as long as you notice. It's a way of getting your attention and clearly she still has it. Try to remain unfazed by the things she says or does at work. Unless whatever she says directly affect your job, then do your best to ignore her. To be honest, the reason she's being vindictive is because she sees that you are happy without her and no girl likes knowing that someone else can make you happy. It's just an ego thing. Don't worry about her and move on. Try to do the things that makes you happy and she'll slowly get the hint that you are just not into her anymore. Don't let her know for ANY REASON AT ALL that you still love her. This will just make things more complicated. Good luck dude...(and sorry if my answer doesn't make that much sense. lol. I'm a little buzzed)
i know its hard but try and get over her. you sound a nice person and could do a lot better. let her stew in her own pettiness she might regret losing you one day