This is long, but i really need advice:
I am a 16 year old girl, and ever sense i can remember, my grandmother has hated me. When i was 2-3 years old my grandfather would molest me in her presence, and she would pretend that nothing was going on, when she knew what was happening. When my older sister told my mom what was going on, my grandmother denied it, and said that we were terrible kids for making something like that up. My whole life she would ignore me. When i was 15 i had to live with her for a summer, and she treated me horrible. She told me that my mother does not love me, and tried to convince me that my mom was having an affair with random men when that was not even true. She blamed me for the reason my parents broke up, saying that my dad had a right to cheat on my mom, and because i accidentally found his match.com account, it was my fault because i was "snooping" ( I really was trying to go on myspace.com, but match.com came up first because it was on out computers history, so i showed my mom) Once i went home after that summer she lied about me to my whole family, saying that i pushed her, stole money from her, and told her that "her husband never loved her" NONE OF THESE THINGS HAPPENED. It makes me furious, because i have not way to defend myself, because everyone believes her. I do not know why my grandmother hates me so much, and wants to hurt me. She told me once "I would rather be with any of my grandchildren but YOU" It really hurt.
Why does she hate me?
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Only she can answer that question. My guess is-she knows she's had a miserable life, and wants to make someone else's-yours-the same way. Advice-wait for her to kick the bucket, then go out for pizza to celebrate. Honestly, i mean, be real, she's miserable, and your life's not better for it! So, as soon she kicks it-whoooppeee!
Your best defense, is to show no emotion.
My father is a hypocrite and always thinks he is right. What I ALWAYS do wen we get into an arguement, or hes trying to get at me emotionally, I ignore it. I smile the ENTIRE time, because I know that I am right, and I am better.
Trust me, this will piss your grandmother off so much.
Be happy all the time
Don't pay her any mind at all.
She doesn't care about you, therefore, you need to make her think that no matter what, she wont phase you.
Stay strong, the truth will come out in the end.
LAUGH! haha, just have fun. Think of ways to get to HER!
Don't let her know that this bothers you.
APPARENTLY SHE HAS NO LIFE AND IS JEALOUS OF YOU BECUASE PEOPLE ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT YOU.
She is worthless if she treats u like this.
Optimism is key!
Trust me hun, it'll work =)
Well this seems a very bitter old woman, I believe she will get her just deserts when her time in this life is up for not having been a nice person. We don't know what this grandfather who is also a complete swine has done to her, he may have dominated her from early on in their married life and he may have beaten her.. you don't know that, I don't know that but it's a possibility.. This whole family on your mothers side is messed up... and I can see why.. with parents like that who must have treated your own mother like dirt.. as they take sides with your cheating father and say your mother deserves it.. that shows there is no love lost between your grandmother and your mother.. your mother must have gotten the same treatment from them as you get from your grandmother when she was young.. You have at least one advantage.. you are only the granddaughter, you don't have to live with those horrible people and you are old enough to say ''No'' if your family asks you that you should visit your grandparents. I definitely would say ''No, and not visit such people..
I believe there is a story behind all this that is really even more ugly than what you have experienced.. most likely this grandmother of yours was beaten and dominated on by her husband, your grandfather and it's very possible but only an assumption, that your grandfather molested your mother when she was a little girl...so there is more to all of this than we can really see I am sure. This woman is full of repressed anger perhaps of having married a horrible man, and she turned into a nasty woman who backed him up.. because if she wouldn't he would have beaten her.. Have you read about the case in Vienna.. where the father kidnapped his own daughter and kept her in the basement of the house and he raped her for 23 years she bore him 8 children in that time..they only got out of their terrible prison last year.. the girl was 18 when he forced her into that bunker and locked her up.. she was 41 when she and her children by this rotter saw daylight for the first time.. and I am sure his wife.. their own mother knew.. how could she not know.. the prison was the basement of their own house...xxx
Stay away from them. Your elder sister seems to have been on your side.. at least at the time. She told the truth and wasn't believed.. so you did have one ally.. your elder sister. Messed up minds, maybe the grandfather was always a pervert.. maybe he never ever treated your grandmother as a wife after the last of their children was born.. and she felt bitterness, he is a child molester, she a bitter old woman... they will both have their comeuppance when they meet a higher power.. when they die... for you, in order to get over this trauma, I would not ask myself why she didn't love you, I am sure she never loved your mother either.. maybe she did not get love and could not give it to her children.. you need to get some therapy for this as soon as you can... even if you have to wait until you are 18.. but you need to talk about this trauma in order to find closure.. so I suggest group therapy or to see a councellor as soon as you are allowed to make your own decisions.. and move away from there.. start a new life.. they are all like broken dolls.. they are victims also.. your mom at least is.. and I am sure she suffered similar as you did.. but she prefers to suppress or try to forget about this...which doesn't work..she should have gotten therapy when she moved from home and she should have broken contact with her parents.. I am all for ''loving ones parents''' but not if ones parents are perfect monsters.. then I would prefer to break the link...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fritzl_case
Your grandmother is emotionally and mentally disturbed.
She probably had a horrible childhood, a horrible marriage, and an overall horrible life.
None of it is your fault, all you can do is avoid her, and not let her treat you like a child.
Don't just let her do anything to you, respond with what you're thinking, defend yourself, argue, tell her to go f*ck herself. And if your mom doesn't like it, go ahead and secretly record your grandmother next time to show your mother that your grandmother is INSANE.
Don't respond with frustration or sadness; that means she's accomplishing exactly what she's trying to do.
Some people have just had sh*tty lives, and they take it out on people who don't deserve. You have to be the mature one.
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Either ignore her or just smile and laugh the next time she shouts at you. Infact just stay away from her if possible. But to break it to you in an easier way your a sweet girl but your grandma is a 2 bit who re who does double because she got no teeth!!
she probably hates herself, not you. BUT you cannot help how other people feel You can only control the feelings of one person. YOU. So get over it. Don't worry about what others say or do.
"Live your life so that you need never be embarrassed by anything that is said about you, whether it is true or not."
i dont know why.Mine hates me but only cuz my mom had three kids before she met my dad and then had me. And because my brother and my sisters are Mexican.she actually fights with my dad if he calls me his child in front of her.i wanted to meet my grandpa but i couldn't go to their house cuz she was there.He died about 3 years ago.yeah but she calls us every mean and nasty name in the world.sorry about what happened to you.
aww sweetie.
this is a very sad story.
maybe because she doesn't like kids.
maybe she wanted to stay with her husband, and you told, so she hates you. maybe its deeper than that. maybe she just doesnt want grandkids.
im sorry honny.
just avoid her.
much love,
gracie
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